Monday, August 30, 2010

Days 10-12 - Blissful distractions

So it's absolutely true that greatness comes when you're not really looking for it.
I can now share this journey of mine with someone. I know 100% that he'll be supportive of me finding balance, and I'm looking forward to sharing it with him. I can finally say that I've had an incredibly romantic first kiss.The butterflies make me feel like I'm a 16yr old giddy school girl. Amazing :)

I apologize to Sabz for not giving her any reading material for the last couple nights haha.

I've been spending time with my special someone, but work has also kept me away from blogging the last couple nights. Tonight was especially exhausting. At one point, I had 4 residents calling out for me. One wanting to go to bed, one needing to use the washroom, another telling me he was lost and the last gentleman up in a sling with me getting him ready for bed. I felt like I was being pulled in every direction possible and it was actually really overwhelming. I kept telling myself to breathe and do one thing at a time, but in turn, that made me feel guilty for not being able to help everyone at the same time. I guess this is where I'll have to learn to divide myself equally between all the ladies and gents that I care for at work.

I've been thinking about taking a vacation...maybe not even TO any place in particular, but rather just using a week or 2 of my vacation time and just RELAXING. I feel an impending burnout and it'll suck big time.

I think I'd like to take a few days and maybe go to Victoria, or maybe drive north a bit and hit up the okanagan? Endless possibilities! Open to suggestions!

Friday, August 27, 2010

Day 9 - The one thing...

that I could always use, no matter what...is SLEEP!

So, on account of me not getting much of said sleep last night, and the fact that I have to get up in less than 7 hours, I am going to make this incredibly short and say one thing to whoever is reading this right now.

Goodnight!!

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Day 8 - Relaxation

I've had the last 3 days off work. It was desperately needed, I'll tell you that much!

I did some cleaning therapy, some extra sleep therapy and today, I can proudly say that other than filling my car with gas and buying myself a bottle of Yellow Tail Shiraz, I did absolutely nothing.

I had dinner, got myself into a nice hot bath with a glass of red wine and my book "Eat Pray Love."
Didn't get too far...35 pages to be exact, but I'm already in love with the author's wit and sense of humor. I have a feeling that I'll really enjoy this book.

After reading a few paragraphs that caught my attention, I decided to hunt down my ever trusty pink highlighter and highlight all of the lines and quotes that moved me...just so I can flip back later and read them again. Maybe they'll bring new insight to me every time I read them over. One can hope :)

Something about being in my own quiet space, with a glass of wine, a thunderstorm in the background and reading a good book (some good phone conversation in between) put me in a fabulous mood. After I finish typing my little blurb for the day, I'm going to curl up with my dog, and fall asleep listening to nature's greatest power. When my alarm clock goes off at 5am, I will try extremely hard to not grumble haha. Tomorrow will be a good day!

Day 7 - Realization

The last few days haven't been particularly insightful. I've been more so getting my thoughts put together and sorting out the things that need to be sorted out before I consume myself in this new life I'll be building for myself.

Tonight, though, I realized something that I will cherish from this day forward.

I've been so preoccupied with finding someone to love, that I haven't really acknowledged those who love ME. I have such great friends who care about me and want me to be happy, I have family that would take a bullet for me and yes, I  have pets who greet me at the door with tail wags and excited barks.

As I'm sure a lot of you know, I have a sister who I love to bits. She's 4 yrs old and she's my world. I can't tell you how much that girl improves my life in so many ways. She can make me laugh when I'm upset and she can make me smile when all I can think of doing is frown.

I have been busy lately and haven't been up to see her in almost 2 weeks. I've seriously missed her, so earlier tonight, I got in my car, drove to my moms and spent some quality time with her and my brother. After a few hours, I reluctantly told her that I had to go. Of course, she asks if she can come spend the night with me at my house. I'd originally said no because my mom had told me that her and my stepdad are taking them to the PNE early in the morning.

She did something after I said no, though, that made me feel truly loved. She hugged me and said "but I want to stay with you." I of course "awwww'd" at this, but was shocked when I went to give her a kiss goodbye and she turned her head away. I looked into her face and she had been quietly crying, tears were rolling down her cheeks and she didn't want me to see. Right then and there, I told her to get her shoes and packed her into the car.

Right now, she's laying in bed beside me, snuggled into my side sleeping peacefully (after quite a while of "Meesa, I'm thirsty'...."Meesa, it's so hot in here!" haha). Right now, I have a 4 year old sister, who loves me unconditionally, who literally cries at the thought of not being with me. Why do I feel like I need some sort of validation and love from a man? I won't lie, having someone to hold me, kiss me and tickle my back to sleep would be great. I enjoy being someone's partner and making their lives better, but do I need that? Of course not. Do I need my family's love? Absolutely.

If I never hear another "I Love You" from a man, I think I'll be okay. After-all, I have the most amazing little sister who reminds me that she loves me all the time :)

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Day 6 - Double Bummer!

So, about a year and 3 months ago, a good guy friend and I decided to be spontaneous and purchase hot air balloon tickets.

Tomorrow would have been our 5th attempt at actually getting up in the air, but, yet again, the flight got canceled because of poor weather conditions for flying. What was supposed to be a fun, random and exhilarating day, has turned into an "oh, they canceled it again?"

Of course we move on, work out our schedules and book another one, but it's still that let-down you feel when it doesn't happen. Ah well, when it finally happens, it'll be that much better!

On a better note, I went on an absolute cleaning frenzy for about 6 hours today. Pretty well gutted my room, dusted every nook and cranny, washed windows, vacuumed, organized, tidied....it was madness. I don't  know what came over me! But now, I can peacefully sit in my extremely clean room, watching my show and talking to friends on msn and not worry about that ever growing stack of clothes that need to be put away lol. I feel

Tomorrow now, I'm not sure what my plans will be. I have 2 more days off, so I plan to make the best of it. Relaxing will definitely be thrown in there somewhere. I really miss Abbey lately too, so I may go have some much needed sister time with her tomorrow.

I'd like to get a good chunk of reading done as well. I've contemplated putting The Secret on hold and starting Eat Pray Love instead. I'm really not sure.

Oh my, I haven't had nothing to do for 2 days in a long time! I kind of like it!!

Monday, August 23, 2010

Day 5 - Life's Bummers

Alright, so aside from learning how to be more productive with my time, I've learned today that I need to figure out a way to deal with the disappointments that life throws my way in a more...embracing way.

I will admit that I've grown a lot in this respect in the last few years. Deep down, I know that there isn't any good reason to be depressed or mopey about the things that don't go how I'd have liked them to. However, that still doesn't take the sting of disappointment away. Not by a long shot. In some strange way, I think I ENJOY feeling the sting of disappointment...maybe because it reassures me that I'm still a normal human being? Who knows. I've always known that I let myself "fall" for people, or develop feelings for people far too easily. It's been the root of quite a few hermit-like days, that's for sure. This time, it feels different. I'm upset, yes, I've let out a few little tears, yes, but not because things didn't "work out" (at least that's not the full reason), but more so because I know that this person is in a tough time and I want so badly to be there and help. I let myself develop feelings for someone knowing full-well that I wasn't in a relationship and that things may in fact not work out. That's nobody's fault but my own.

I will get over whatever I need to get over, and I'll move on and be happy. I just got too excited about someone starting to breaking my wall down. I always cherish times I've had with people, no matter if they were good or bad times...because I end up learning from it all in one way or another. I can't hold a grudge, not in the least. I just wish I'd have been a bit more reserved and less...free spirited? Who knows. I'm a grown up, I'll live :)

Day 4 - Better Use Of Time

This is something I've been thinking about today. I need to figure out how to make better use of the time that I have when I'm not working. I need to be PRODUCTIVE!

Generally, I don't do a whole lot. I'll hang out with friends here and there, but for the most part, I'm at home, either sleeping, reading, puttering around on the computer or going on some random drive...which gets me lost and with half of my gas gone haha.

I really need to factor some work outs in my day. I can't stand feeling unhealthy or unattractive. I think getting back into the gym will do wonders for my confidence and self-esteem. It did just that last year, and I miss the feeling I'd get after an intense workout.

Budgeting too. Oh lord help my bank account lately. It's terrible.
I need to stop spending money on little frills and unnecessary things!!

I think I may start by making myself a schedule. Implementing times for everything may help me. I tend to follow set schedules very well. Then I need to make myself a financial plan. YIKES!

Any tips or advice is welcome!

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Day 3 - Much Needed Fun

Alright, so, the last while, I've had a semi-difficult time just forgetting all of my stress or frustrations. Tonight, though, was a much different story.

Months ago, I started a "What's Coming Up?" list for myself. First, it was my 21st birthday, which was great. Time spent with family is never under appreciated. Next up was The Lion King musical in downtown Vancouver. It was incredible. One of my favourite disney movies made into real life. I couldn't have asked for a better show. Then came the Backstreet Boys concert. Having been a BSB fan since I was a tyke, I completely enjoyed seeing them....maybe for the 4th time haha. The thing with all of these events was that afterward, even though I had great times, reality hit me again, and I was right back at being stressed and letting the "ugh, I have to do this tomorrow" and the "when was that payment due again?" permeate my brain as soon as I walked out the doors.

Tonight, though, was the conclusion of my summer event list. I went to see Michael BublĂ© with a co-worker. I have been so excited about it and I was not let down by a long shot. I had a great dinner downtown with a friend, I had a blast jiving with  BublĂ©'s opening act, and finally, when it came time for Michael to get on stage, I was in awe. His voice is so raw and powerful. All of my frustrations, annoyances and stress just fell away. I feel pride in the fact that a man so talented has come from this great city. I was almost misty eyed at some points seeing how much emotion he puts into his singing.

The concert ended almost 4 hours ago, and I'm still awestruck at what I saw tonight. It's rare that I'm this speechless about something, but I'm glad I am. Sometimes it's better to not use any words.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Day 2 - Taking Action

Today was like any other day. I got up for work at 5am (reluctantly, I might add. I am not a morning person), got dressed, got in my car and drove the 5 minutes to work. Of course there was a Timmy's run thrown in there too.

I didn't feel any more content waking up than I have lately (could be the terrible sleep I had), but as the day progressed, I made the conscious effort to not let myself think negative thoughts. When I was running behind schedule getting residents up, I paced myself and got the job done. After all, eating breakfast 10 minutes late isn't going to affect anyone. When the mechanic who changed the oil in my car told me that my transmission pan had a leak in it, instead of stressing out and thinking about how I'd have to dish out money on repairs, I thought "it's a car, it's going to need repairs." Granted, nobody REALLY wants to drop money on car repairs haha.

I didn't get the chance to continue my reading tonight, but overall, I feel like I took a small step in the right direction.

When all is said and done, I'd like to look back on this blog and read entries from each day, seeing how far I've come and how much my life has changed through time. Like today, though, I'm sure there will be days when I don't have much to say.

I can say, though, that I am going crazy without hockey to watch on TV.

GOODNIGHT, WORLD!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Day 1 - My Life Changes Today

2 years ago, I was single (and had been for a while), I'd just finished my RCA program and was working in health care, essentially making minimum wage. I didn't have my license, didn't have a car and by all standards, I should have been an angst riddled 19 year old girl.

On the contrary, I was the happiest I've ever been. I didn't need a man to validate my purpose in life, I didn't need a lot of money and anywhere that I needed to go was within walking distance or I had friends and family willing to chauffeur me around haha. My first long-term relationship had ended almost 2 years earlier and I'd taken that 2 years to get to know myself, figure out what I wanted and who I wanted to be. I was constantly in amazing spirits, and didn't fathom how people could look at a glass as half empty rather than half full.

Then just over a year ago, at the peak of my happiness, at the point where I'd told myself "I love my life," I met someone who seemingly swept me off my feet. I let myself fall hard, and fall fast. In the process, I'd lost touch with who I was. I didn't feel connected with myself anymore and was disappointed that I'd let myself forget all the progress I had made within me. I brushed those thoughts off in hopes that I'd found my prince. Good luck, right, Melissa? Exactly. Like all rushed relationships, it crashed, burned and faded away into a grudge holding needle in my side for a while. Live and learn.

Fast forward to today. I am a 21 year old woman, yes, still single, but with a well paying job, my license, a great car and amazing people to surround myself with. I should be happy, right? Well, in comparison to my life 2 years ago, I'm not. Don't get me wrong, though...I have people in my life who make me happy every day and I have people who I'd like to build meaningful relationships with, but the honest truth is that it may not happen. Usually, I'd be really bummed at the thought of this, but I just can't be. In the big picture, if things don't work out how I'd like, I need to embrace the experience and move on as a stronger woman.

1 week ago, a movie titled "Eat Pray Love" came to theatres, and yesterday, I took myself to go see it. Sitting on my own, in an auditorium full of middle-aged women in groups gossiping about their latest arguments with their husbands or boyfriends, I told myself that I would sit and soak up every possible bit of enlightenment that I could find within this movie.

I was in awe by the time the credits were rolling up the screen. I got in my car, turned my stereo off and drove home in silence, thinking about the amazing film I'd just watched. During that drive, I made the decision to change every aspect of my life. My family dynamic, my relationships, my job and my health. I made the decision to change my outlook on life, love and my pursuit of happiness. I will learn to treat every experience, every lost hope and every disappointment as a lesson; every person I meet, every man I care about as a stepping stone to something greater. I will learn to embrace pain and welcome my fear of uncertainty with open arms. I will also learn to control my life and my thoughts.

My short term goal in all of this is to get myself back to the place I was at 2 years ago. My long term goal is to marvel at my life. I want that zest and appetite for life that Liz talked about in the movie. I want to be balanced and in a permanent state of contentment.

I went to Chapters today and bought myself four books.
"The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne
"The Power" by Rhonda Byrne
"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
and of course, "Eat Pray Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert

I hope these books will begin to guide me into the life that I desire for myself. You lucky people (whoever you may be) get the privilege of reading my rambles and living vicariously through my pain, my happiness and the challenges that I will face in making my life my sanctuary. 

I am the Master of my fate. I am the Captain of my soul.